Four men were given photos of three women and asked "Who is the most beautiful?" The 1st guy said, "The blonde". The 2nd guy said, "No, the brunette". The 3rd guy said, "No, it is surely the red-head." The moderator said to the 4th guy "Well, it's up to you to decide?" He responded, "I'm sorry, but I don't know any of these women. I couldn't possibly tell you who is the most beautiful."
Jesus once said, “Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgement.” (John 7:24) In the parable above; which one was the righteous judge?
We often judge according appearance even though from the time we were young we have heard teachings like “Don’t judge a book by its cover” and “Don’t count your chickens before they hatch”, etc. Judging by appearance is easy. It’s worldly. It’s continually done to us and so it conditions us to do it to others and other circumstances. This is one reason we need constant reminders of how and why to judge righteously.
Once, a queen, so concerned for the welfare of her son, the prince, wisely shared with him the wisdom necessary in judging the beauty of a woman who was virtuous and worthy to be his wife, and princess and future queen. Here is wisdom of righteous judgment she imparted upon her beloved son...
(10) Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
(11) The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
(12) She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
(13) She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
(14) She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
(15) She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
(16) She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
(17) She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
(18) She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
(19) She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
(20) She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
(21) She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
(22) She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
(23) Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
(24) She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
(25) Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
(26) She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
(27) She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
(28) Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
(29) Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
(30) Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
(31) Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
How blessed this young man was to have a mother who taught him how to judge… how to see/find true beauty.
While certainly from these scriptures and this parable we can learn what true beauty is, the real lesson is about what kind of judge each of us are going to be. Will we judge righteously? Will we judge with truth, sincerity, purity, and wisdom? Will we judge like Jesus teaches? Let us all judge righteously!